How to have a true balance with adopted kids and biological kids?

Me and my boyfriend adopted a kid who's a toddler now, and now I'm pregnant with probably twins or triplets. How should we balance our relationships between all children? Actually the problem is not me and my boyfriend because we will treat them fairly no matter what, but how do you teach kids to be fair to each other and also to the adopted kid I'm scared to have any issues that'll hurt my adopted kid. Thanks.|||Just do a favour to yourself pleezz do not tell him that kid is the adopted one..


Let him behave as he/she is the eldest brother/daughter of all.


and pleez do not ill treat him.|||I think you should just treat all the children the same. Don't make a big deal about one being adopted and the others not. When the time comes to explain it to everyone, just explain that there are a lot of different kinds of family, and as long as you love them all the same they will see that.





As for outside people, if they try to treat the adopted child like he/she is less then you need to tell them, you treat and love all my children equally or you do not get a chance to know them.|||you treat each child the same way, love them the same, and give each the same opportunities and support. If the adopted child isn't a different race and all I wouldn't broadcast to your biological children right away that their sibling is adopted.. but when they are old enough to understand and comprehend.. like 4 or 5 maybe 6.. just explain that all families are different and you love them all equally. Explain how special it is that they have a unique family and that nobody will ever get special treatment just because they are adopted or came from mommy. Talk to the adopted child now too and stress the same... that you love them very much and that will never ever change and that they will have an important role as a big sister/brother when the babies arrive and involve your child as much as possible.|||Dont make the fact that he is adopted an issue. Seriously it shouldnt even matter. he is legally your child, when your babies are born you will not treat him differently and that will teach them by example. Most of the times children that are raised with the adopted child treat them like a sibling, so you probably wont have anything to worry about.|||Just think of how crushed the adopted child will be and the issues "the kid" will have when you stop loving "the adopted kid" %26gt;:( I was adopted by my grandmother and I know she favors her actual childeren more and it pisses me off.|||Teach by example. Treat your adopted child no differently than your biological child.|||Treat them equal do everything with them show them the same love